“Who the hell knows what they want to do at 23?”
I got a few weird looks from some people in the room when I said this. Noticeably, the looks were form people above 30 who seem to have their lives figured out. But, there were some few looks from my age mates as well which got me thinking.
In case you are wondering, this all came from a question my uncle asked me at one of those family gatherings. We were discussing a cousin of mine who just graduated (before me I might add even though I was done with school before him) and how he just secured a well-paying job at big multinational.
The question went something like this, “what do you want to do and where do you see your career going?” To this day very few people in my family understand what I do and they don’t consider writing a ‘real’ career anyway.
The question in itself is understandable but I could not understand why they felt the need to ask. Yes, there are people who graduate with a solid idea of what they want to do and who they want to be (congratulations if you are one of them) but some of us have to struggle to figure it out a bit. I learn through experience it’s why I was so good at practical work in school but terrible when it came to theory.
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The problem is everyone thinks that because I don’t have a solid plan yet that I am destined to fail. This might be true if I was not working towards figuring it out.
The question was quickly followed by the ‘when are you graduating?’ one which honestly at this point I am sick of hearing. It will happen this year and I don’t even think I will attend it, the moment passed and I am over it.
Back to what I want to do, I have a very clear memory of when I was in class four, I was about nine and I wrote a short story on a sticky note. It was a story I came up with and at the time I couldn’t understand why I felt the need to write it.
I have always been a shy person so writing for me was a way of expressing myself. I am the kind of person who has kept a journal since primary school. So anyway my mum later found the note and asked me if what I had written about was true or not.
The story was about a girl who was tricked by a close family friend and defiled. I realize now that it was a dark topic for a nine-year-old to focus on but well. It was completely fictional by the way.
So when it comes to my career and what I want to do for the rest of my life, I know for sure writing is a part of it. I just need to figure out what sort of writing and where to start.
It gets worse when people say that I need to figure everything out soon so that I can start a family. Well sorry to disappoint but the love of my life will have to wait until when I am good and ready.
Why can’t people in their early 20’s be given a chance to figure things out without all this pressure? No wonder the suicide rate has increased. If you are not in the group of people who have things figured out you are labeled a failure which can be very depressing. There was a post I read by a friend of mine of Facebook talking about the same you can check it out here.
So my question to you is do you have everything figured out? If yes, help a sister out.
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