“So I’m dating this guy, his name is Dan and I think this one will last.” This was a statement recent conversation I had with a friend of mine. She has dated 3 guys since December last year and she just can’t figure out why these relationships never work out.
I think it’s because of some behaviors I noticed, both hers and the guys she dates. Relationships take work and you need to make an active decision to ensure that everything works out. Sadly there are things most of us do that just completely destroy any relationship we get into before it even gets a chance to grow.
Things That Can Ruin Your Relationship
1. Acting like you’re single
Honestly, this should be a no-brainer; no one wants to be in a relationship with someone who acts single. If you are making important decisions that can affect your relationship as an individual instead of as a team, then this is a problem.
I’m not saying you can never make your own independent decisions; however, anything that affects both of you needs to at least be discussed with your significant other.
Not doing so will only show that you are selfish and have no regard for the other person and this is not a good thing in any relationship.
2. Constantly criticizing
Obviously, you don’t want to be with someone who is always criticizing everything you do so why subject your partner to the same?
Such a situation where you are constantly critiquing anything your partner does will result in either a very toxic relationship or a break-up.
If this is something you cannot fix then why are you in a relationship with someone whose behavior annoys you so much?
3. Avoiding uncomfortable moments
A healthy relationship has its fair share of fights and disagreements, avoiding fights will keep the peace for only a while but after a while, things are bound to blow up and it will be much worse then.
The small stuff if kept in will blow up and cause a much larger rift between you two, it’s better to have those uncomfortable conversations and prevent you from resenting your partner or vice versa.
4. Losing yourself in the other person
It might seem like a good idea at first to immerse yourself in the relationship but this is always a bad idea.
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A good example of this could be, you start dating someone who loves watching horror movies, something you completely hated yet all of a sudden you start loving them as well, you prefer your partner’s friends more than your own and basically just like something because they like it.
By doing this you will most certainly lose yourself because you are changing who you are. Remember your S/O didn’t fell in love with who you are so changing is not necessary.
In my opinion, any relationship that requires you to change who you are and not for the better is not worth it.
Everyone tells little white lies here and there but this is a slippery slope. Lying to your partner will most definitely end your relationship especially if done continuously.
It doesn’t even have to be about big things but continuously lying about things you don’t need to will show that you cannot be trusted which will eventually lead to a break-up.
After all, no one wants to date someone who casually lies all the time.
No relationship can thrive without trust, so if you are always insecure about what your significant other is doing, then you need to find out why and work on it.
If you have not been given a reason to not trust your partner but you still don’t then you might need to get professional help because that is a psychological issue.
After all, you don’t want to stay in a relationship where you constantly have to be a detective.
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