A first date can be very awkward and nerve wracking especially if you don’t do it right. One of the biggest determinants of whether your date goes well or not is the place you choose. Sadly people don’t really pay attention to such details.
I have a friend who was complaining about how he invested all this time and money into wooing a girl and she still said no. The first question I asked him was where he took her on a date, that’s because this is what determines whether the relationship blossoms or withers out.
Now I’m not saying you have to spend a lot of money just to impress someone, it’s the thought that goes into it that really matters. A girl would be more willing to go out on a second date with you if she had fun the first time.
So What Are Some Of The Worst Date Ideas You Should Never Even Consider?
1. A birthday Party/ wedding
Now I don’t know about you but I never attend parties where I’m not friends with the host and know some of the people attending. This is because attending a party where you only know one person can get very awkward with everyone trying to figure out who you are and you having no one to talk to.
This makes it a very bad choice for a first date. If the date is awkward and our date is uncomfortable the chances of them going out with you again are slim to none.
Not only that but it shows you didn’t really put a lot of thought into it as well as didn’t really make a sacrifice because you were to attend this event anyways and instead of making time for our date you went with the easy option.
2. The movies
This may come as a shock to many but taking someone to the movies for a first date is not a good idea especially if it’s all there is to the date.
What this date entails is basically two hours of silence as you watch the movie and after which you all go your separate ways. Not much of a date is it. It may be fun because you got to watch a movie however, the whole point of a date is to get to know someone and see if the two of you are a good fit.
This can be a great idea if you are already in a relationship with the person not when you are trying to establish one.
See Also: 5 Type of Men You Should Never Date
The society and movies have made us believe that going out to dinner in a fancy restaurant is the perfect first date. I tend to disagree. There is nothing wrong with going out to dinner as a second or even third date but definitely not the first.
The reason why I don’t think this is a good idea is you are forced to spend hours talking to this person and at some point the conversation will stall and then awkwardness sets in which is very dangerous because it can kill whatever attraction you felt for the other person.
I speak from experience, there was I guy I really liked who invited me out to dinner and the next day I was so over him and that was the end of that. It wasn’t anything he did but more like I realized we would never be able to hold a conversation. My point is don’t put too much pressure on a budding relationship too soon.
4. The club
This should be an obvious one. Darkness, loud music and having an old guy hitting on you, does not a great date make. I see so many of my friends being asked out to clubs and just feel sorry for them. First of all I think any guy who asks you out to a club as a first date wants one thing and it is not to get to know you better. At this point it is better to go out on a dinner date than out clubbing.
5. Your House
“Come over” I think every girl has gotten this text or call and at this point I’m just sick of it. You cannot have a first date at your house. It only goes to show that you have made no effort in thinking about where to take this person on a date.
It also shows that you are only interested in one thing. It doesn’t matter if you don’t see it that way the girl will and because of that you kill any chance you had with her. Leave this for a much later date after you have built a base for your relationship.
Going on a walk is a much better alternative if you don’t have a lot of money to spend and it gives you a chance to get to know each other while pursuing other activities.
Depending on what you like and what you think she likes, a first date should be a time to have fun and get to see if you guys are compatible. If it goes badly then you most likely won’t get a second date however, if it goes well then you might end up in a beautiful relationship.
A date doesn’t have to be expensive there are so many cheap date ideas that you can look into that will be fun and exciting. All you have to do is take the time to find them.